Violent Death

When a loved one dies violently, it shakes you to your roots; it shatters your assumptions that the world is basically safe. You are thrown into a tornado of grief and loss that takes on a life of it’s own.

People talk of feeling battered, shaken and almost destroyed. Feelings of anger, rage, sorrow, fear, panic, pain and yearning may take over. People tend to isolate themselves, yet finding others to share with is so important for healing and surviving.

This grief is different as it involves the news, media, medical or emergency personnel, police, detectives, coroners, an inquest and the legal system.  Dealing with all these kinds of people is never easy.

Chaos, shock, confusion, terror, anger and explosive emotions may overwhelm you. Intrusive questions will have to be answered and insensitive people need to be dealt with. The media may hound you and the police my even accuse you. You may be living with the guilt that you could do nothing to change what has happened.  You have to make decisions you never thought you would have to make. You have to tell the story, even though you may still be in a fog. You may stay awake for days while you wait for answers that don’t seem to come.  There is no warning, no time for good-byes.

There is a book written offering practical advice for families in the immediate days, weeks and months following a murder.  It is called:

Hope Beyond the Headlines – Supporting a child bereaved through murder or manslaughter

It is written for both parents and professionals, giving them the confidence to involve children and young people in understanding and managing the particular difficulties and complexities that so often surround a death by murder or manslaughter.

The book includes child-friendly activities to do as a family to help them to make sense of what has happened and to begin to express their grief. If you would like a copy, please contact us info@rosedalefuneralhome.co.uk

Many people who experience the violent death of a loved one seek professional help and guidance. The following organisations may be of some help to you:

National Association of Victim Support

Hallam House
56-60 Hallam Street
London
W1W 6JL

Telephone: 0845 30 30 900
Website: www.victimsupport.org.uk

Support after Murder and Manslaughter

Pershore Road
Edgbaston
Birmingham
B5 7RN

Telephone: 0845 872 3440
Website: www.samm.org.uk