Suggested reading list for adults

Over the years, we have built up an extensive library of books, audio tapes and DVD’s to support the bereaved.  The following books are included in our library, which you are welcome to borrow from us at any time.

All of the following books are available from Rosedale.

View our suggested reading list for bereaved families

View our suggested reading list for bereaved children

General Reading

After the Death of Someone Very Close

By Cruse Bereavement Care

Cruse’s best-selling guide to the emotions commonly experienced during the grief of bereavement.  A basic, helpful introduction to bereavement, whatever the circumstances.

Coping with Trauma and Loss

By Cruse Bereavement Care

A popular Cruse booklet for anyone affected by disaster or sudden or violent loss.

Has Someone Died?

By Cruse Bereavement Care

A popular Cruse booklet for anyone affected by death.

Comfort for the Grieving Soul

By Carolyn Jane Neill

This book is aimed at helping those suddenly faced with the loss of a loved one.  It provides words of comfort and suggests practical ways to support those going through this life-changing experience.

The Courage to Grieve.  Creative Living, Recover and Growth Through Grief

By Judy Tatelbaum

A therapist writes simply and understandingly about many aspects of grief, including complex situation such as delayed grieving.

Now What?

By Dr Bill Webster

Designed to assist and comfort people in the early, numbing days after a loss.

Death is Nothing At All

By Canon Henry Scott-Holland

‘…I have only slipped away into the next room…’.  the well-known words of comfort by Canon Henry Scott Holland, attractively presented as a small, illustrated book.

Through Grief:  The Bereavement Journey

By Elizabeth Collick 

A short, popular book about the pattern of grief and recovery.  Helpful for those experiencing deep grief.

‘You’ll Get Over It’

By Virginia Ironside

The journalist and agony aunt Virginia Ironside writes powerfully about emotions after bereavement, from her own experience and that of others.  Angrily dismissing conventional attempts at comfort, she finally moves towards a faint glimmering of hope that things will get better.

Dealing with Death:  Coping with the Pain

By Susan Leigh

Grief and loss affect us all, no matter what age we might be.  From the death of a much loved relative or pet, the lost opportunity of an important scholarship or promotion, a family divorce, death and loss have to be grieved over, dealt with and hopefully recovered from.

In simple, jargon free language this book covers ways to understand and resolve the diverse , sometimes confusing and conflicting emotions experienced at times of intense personal distress.  There are sections that cover how to build personal confidence, a positive mental attitude and self-esteem which benefit us all in everyday life.

The Early Days of Grieving

By Derek Nuttall

The early days of grieving is the best simple and straightforward book for people who have recently lost  loved one.  It offers support, explanation and information, speaking directly and personally to bereaved people, though everyone will find it helpful.

A Grief Observed

By C.S. Lewis

In April 1956, C.S. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor, married Joy Davidman, an American poet with two small children.  After four brief, intensely happy years, Davidman died of cancer and Lewis found himself alone again, and inconsolable.  To defend himself against the loss of belief in God, Lewis wrote this journal, an eloquent statement of rediscovered faith.  In it he freely confesses his doubts, his rage, and his awareness of human frailty.  In it he finds, once again, the way back to life.  Now a modern classic.  A Grief Observed has offered solace and insight to countless readers worldwide.

I Can’t Stop Crying

By John D. Martin & Frank D. Ferris

The death of someone close – a family member, or partner – can result in feelings of overwhelming grief.  At the same time, society unrealistically expects people to recover from grief as quickly as possible.  I Can’t Stop Crying looks at grieving as a painful, but necessary, process.  The authors emphasise the importance of giving permission to grieve and suggest steps for rebuilding life without the one who is gone.  The also look at how such a loss affects relationship with family and friends. as well as lifestyle, work habits and hopes for the future.

Rich in Years: Finding Peace and Purpose in a Long Life

By Johann Christoph Arnold

Johann Christoph Arnold, whose books have helped over a million readers through life’s challenges, wants us to rediscover the spiritual riches that age has to offer.  Now in his seventies, Arnold finds himself personally facing the trials that come with aging.  But he knows, from decades of pastoral experience, what older people and their caregivers can do to make the most of the journey.  In this book, he shares stories of people who, in growing older, have found both peace and purpose.

Be Not Afraid:  Overcoming the Fear of Death

By Johann Christoph Arnold

Fear of accidents or acts of terror, illness or dying, loneliness or grief -if you’re like most people, such anxieties may be robbing you of the peace that could be yours.  In Be Not Afraid, Arnold, a seasoned pastoral counsellor who has accompanied many people to death’s door, tells how ordinary men, women, and children found the strength to conquer their deepest fears.  Interspersed with anecdotes from such wise teachers as Tolstoy, Dickens, and Dorothy Day, Arnold’s words offer the assurance that even in an age of anxiety, you can live to the full and meet death with confidence.

Going Home – What to do when somebody dies

By Michael Cole

We all have to face death, and most of us look for help and reassurance.  This book provides answers to questions such as:  What happens when I did?  How do I arrange a funeral?  How can I care for the dying?

On your own – A practical guide to Independent living

By Jean Shapiro

If you are one of the thousands of women who, often after many years of marriage, are now facing a new life alone, then this is the book for you.

No heart more tender

By Harry Read

This book for the bereaved is from a Christian perspective.  A retied Salvation Army, Commissioner Read shared his experiences of bereavement following his wife’s sudden death and the death of his infant son, Peter.

 

 

Adults Whose Parent Has Died

And When Did You Last See Your Father?

By Blake Morrison

Blake Morrison’s award-winning book about the life and death of his father, a Yorkshire man and a strong character.  Morrison relives his mostly happy, often humorous memories of his father, trying to put their relationship in perspective.  The book includes descriptions of his Father’s death at home from cancer.  Reading this, you realise you are not alone in finding the death of a parent, even when you are grown up, a major loss.

When Your Parent Dies:  Insight for Bereaved Adults

By Cruse Bereavement Care

Adults who lose a parent often experience profound grief yet society expects them to take the death in their stride.  This Cruse publication explores explores some of the often complex issues involved.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

         

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bereavement Through Suicide

Bereaved by Suicide  

By Patrick Shannon

Death by suicide can result in a painful, complicated mix of emotions for those left behind, ranging from bewilderment to grief, anger, guilt and fear.  Many people find this booklet very helpful.

A Special Scar:  The Experiences of People Bereaved by Suicide             

By Alison Wertheimer

Well-informed, helpful and compassionate, drawing on the experiences of a wide range of people and situations.

A Voice for Those Bereaved by Suicide

By Sarah McCarthy

Sarah McCarthy’s husband took his own life after a difficult period for himself and the family, leaving her with four children under ten.  At first overwhelmed and angry, she describes how she slowly builds up a positive life for herself and the children, helped by a religious faith.

Help is at Hand – Support after someone may have died by suicide

By Public Health Britain

This guide has been designed to help you choose when and what sections are most appropriate for you.  Some sections on how you may be feeling; others on what may be happening.  Family and friends may also find it useful so that they can begin to try to understand a little of what you are going through and how to find the right help.

 

 

 

 

Losing a Partner

Coming Through

By Susan Le Poidevin

A Cruse booklet dealing realistically with bereavement and making the most of changed circumstances.  Mainly for those who have lost a partner.  Practical and constructive ideas for self-help.

Lifeline in Grief

By Roy Bolitho

A leaflet in which a widower writes about his experiences after his wife’s death.

Change and Loss

By Ruth McAllen

A Small book written to provide assistance and guidance for those travelling through the territory of widowhood.  Ruth herself was widowed with three young children.

Widow to Widow – Thoughtful, Practical ideas for rebuilding your life

By Genevieve David Ginburg.  MS.

An essential resource for a trying period, this book equips you with the gentle encouragement and practical strategies you need to start along the path to rebuilding a new life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Losing a Child

Suffering Love:  Coping with the Death of a Child

By Bill Merrington

A researcher and former hospital chaplain provides a practical guide to the grief of parents and families when a child has died.  ‘Suffering Love’ is positive and practical throughout and above all, offers hope for the future.

Grieving A Loss In The Line Of Duty

Beyond the Call

By Dr Bill Webster

‘Beyond the Call’ has been commissioned by T.Cribb & Sons to acknowledge the sacrifice made by those who die or are injured in the line of duty for the sake of others.  They include military veterans, police officers, fire fighters, EMS and emergency workers, among others.  The honour roll must include those who have been wounded, as well as those who, traumatised under stress of what they saw and endured, felt unable to go on with life.

‘Beyond the Call’ also seeks to recognise the sacrifice of those families and friends whose lives have been touched by the tragedy.  It is written to offer helpful insights and bring some comfort and hope to all those who struggle to come to terms with what has happened.

For People With Learning Difficulties

When Somebody Dies

By Sheila Hollins, Sandra Dowling & Noelle Blackman

Mary is very upset when someone she loves dies and is encouraged to go and see a counsellor.  Later when her housemate, John, is bereaved she and her friends are able to comfort and support him.  A story told sensitively through pictures with an excellent section for carers on bereavement and how it can affect this group.

 

For Carers

Past Caring:  the Beginning, Not the End

By Audrey Jenkinson

Audrey Jenkinson was 24 when she gave up her career to care for her sick parents.  After their death she felt a deep void and the book describes her own experiences and those of other former carers who have lost parents, partners and children.  She ends with positive self-help ideas to help carers rebuild their lives again.

Audio Books

Grief Journey:  Finding Your Way After a Loss

By Dr Bill Webster

A 65 minute overview of the Grief Journey, this tape provides a means of support to grieving people who find it difficult to concentrate, or for those who are visually challenged.

Now What?

By Dr Bill Webster

A 75 minute tape to assist people immediately after a funeral and during the early days of grieving, who may find reading or concentration difficult, or for those who are visually challenged.  This excellent audio book is designed to assist and comfort people in the early, numbing days of loss.  It helps us understand what to expect in the weeks and months after a loss, and makes suggestions as to how to cope with those feelings.

Biographies

It’s not raining Daddy, it’s happy surviving grief, a Father and Son start again

By Benjamin Brooks – Dutton

‘Jackson, Mummy’s gone away and she can’t ever come back.  She didn’t want to go.  She would never have left you out of choice because she loved you more than anything in the world.  But Daddy’s still here and I’m going to look after you now.  Any I know how to because Mummy taught me’.  Ben was left a widower and sole parent to their two year old son Jackson after his wife, Desreen was hit and killed by a car.

Next to you:  Caron’s Courage

By Gloria Hunniford

This is the story of one woman.  But it’s not just one woman’s story.  It’s about a family.  And it’s a story that could belong to anyone of us at any time.  Although Caron lost her battle with Cancer, this isn’t a sad book.  Told by Gloria, it’s an inspirational and honest account of how their family faced and coped with the illness.

The Two of Us, my life with John Thaw

By Sheila Hancock

When John Thaw dies, the nation lost one of its finest actors, Sheila lost a beloved husband.  A unique double biography, chronicling their lives – personal and private, together and apart.  A remarkable book – a wonderfully vivid evocation of two lives lived to the utmost.